If you are not sure if you or someone you know is being abused, refer to our What is Domestic Violence?, What is Sexual Violence?, and What is Teen Dating Violence? sections.

• Listen in a non-judgmental, supportive manner
• Be supportive, regardless of the number of times she returns to the relationship
• Remind her that she is not alone and is not to blame for the abuse
• Make referrals to programs that offer assistance to victims of domestic violence. Encourage her to make contact with a victim advocate to discuss options
• Assist in developing a safety plan
• If she tells you she is afraid, trust that there are good reasons for that belief
• Tell her that you're concerned for her safety
• Tell her that she deserves better than this
• Be there for her even when you don't understand her decisions